Ladder to Crop Tops

Like the stairway to heaven, but less sad, the ladder to crop tops will lead you to body positive nirvana. It is possible that you have never seen glorious fat ladies in amazing crop tops, but they are out there and the movement is taking off.

You may not be ready to jump right into bare bellies, and that is ok! You can start at the bottom; the easy part. 🙂

Things you will need on the first rung:

  • High waist pants/jeans/skirts or light weight dresses
  • An Instagram account
  • A shirt that does not cover your butt
    • I have been there, you like tunics cause they cover all the things that feel bad, but a journey starts with one step (up)

If you are a consummate tunic wearer, go easy on yourself. Look for a top that goes to your hips or waist. Look for something that still has some volume, it doesn’t have to be tight. Just get one; don’t go crazy. Put it on over a dress or with some high waist items. (please ignore the mess that is my house)

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Just get used to wearing it around the house. If you have the crop with the high waist bottom, no skin is going to show. Even if you reach up or bend down. Once comfortable at home, go grocery shopping or for a walk around the block. I guarantee no one is going to say anything negative, in fact you may get some positive responses.

While you are getting used to this new shorter shirt reality, log into Insta and start following some fat babes who are on their own #selflovery journies. Here’s a few to get you started:

Dascha Polanco


Jessica Torres

Kelly Augustine

Tanesha Awasthi

Nicolette Mason

You don’t have to post your own pictures, but I urge you to take them. This is because as you get more used to wearing crop, you will notice that you hold your body differently. At first you might slouch a little, or tend to cross your arms, but eventually, you’ll notice you’re rockin it.

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As you feel more comfortable, start moving up that ladder again. Go a little shorter, or take a longer, tighter crop top and tuck it into that high waist skirt. Put mesh over a shorter crop or bralette so you get the idea that you have skin under there, but aren’t really showing it. Feel free to repeat the steps from the beginning. Start out only wearing it at home, and once you feel comfortable, then go out for a walk or stop for gasoline or hit up the grocery store.

Eventually, you might even feel comfortable enough to stand in front of a mirror and see what a little sliver of belly looks like with a shorter crop top. And who knows, you might even end up rockin a two piece bathing suit. For more insta-inspo check #effyourbeautystandards and #goldenconfidence

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Just finished: Updraft by Fran Wilde

Here’s the blurb:

In a city of living bone rising high above the clouds, where danger hides in the wind and the ground is lost to legend, a young woman must expose a dangerous secret to save everyone she loves.

Welcome to a world of wind and bone, songs and silence, betrayal and courage.

My thoughts:

I started out reading this in audiobook and got about 30% through before I couldn’t take any more from the narrator. It was not her voice that bothered me but the pacing and breathlessness of it. While there were certain sections for which this style worked very well, in other places it just seemed wrong. So I switched to the ebook and didn’t look back.

The writing in this book is painfully good. Just judging from other books I have read that include flight, it is very hard to describe flight and aerial battle in a way that does not make the reader feel like a cameraman in a Michael Bay movie, but this book managed to do it. The cadence of the language also lent itself to the feel of the flight in the book. It was really masterfully done.

The story itself was heartfelt and clear if a little whiny sometimes, but, I mean, come on, we were all whiny when we were teenagers so I always expect some of that when the protagonist is a teen. I thought the reactions and misunderstandings between mother and daughter were particularly well done. That relationship felt very real to me and I hope it is explored more fully as the series continues.

I can’t wait to read the next book in the series when it is released next month. I would recommend this to anyone that enjoys a good adventure story with a little mystery. If you enjoy Sorcerer to the Crown I would suggest you check this one out.

Overall: 4 stars

Just finished: Devil in a Blue Dress by Walter Mosley

Here’s the blurb:

Devil in a Blue Dress honors the tradition of the classic American detective novel by bestowing on it a vivid social canvas and the freshest new voice in crime writing in years, mixing the hard-boiled poetry of Raymond Chandler with the racial realism of Richard Wright to explosive effect.

My thoughts:

This is definitely hard boiled mystery. There is a kind of noir feel to it as well being set in 1940s Los Angeles. There is a lot of violence and overt racism that are explored but also a kind of mysticism that I think was what threw off the pacing for me. This book is definitely teeing up the rest of the series I think as well, so there is a lot that is trying to be done in one relatively slim volume.

All of this together made the story feel a bit uncoordinated. There wasn’t really a mystery to solve other than why Easy has to be such a casual womanizer (the answer apparently being that private eye tropes require it). Overall, I enjoyed the setting and mood of the book, but it was very light on the things that I really enjoy in a good mystery novel, the whodunit.

This would be good for anyone that enjoys gritty historical fiction. It was also, as I mentioned in a earlier review a good reflection on what racism looked like in American during post-WWII but before the Civil Rights era of the 1960s. So read in conjunction with Kindred, we get a taste of slavery era South, post WWII southwest, and post Civil Rights movement southwest all from the point of view of black authors and black characters.

Overall: 3 stars